Why do couples sleep separately?
Sometimes a sweet and deep sleep can be interrupted by a dog barking in the street, the sound of an alarm in a neighbor's car, or a baby gnashing its teeth and crying incessantly. Add to this a restless companion who snores or steals blankets.
Sometimes a sweet and deep sleep can be interrupted by a dog barking in the street, the sound of an alarm in a neighbor's car, or a baby gnashing its teeth and crying incessantly. Add to this a restless companion who snores or steals blankets or prefers a polar temperature environment by turning the air conditioning to full. Say goodnight to your sleep. The real hours you actually sleep will fall in half and so in the morning ... Goodbye energy.
Research has shown that on average, one in three people report that their partner is a negative influence during their sleep. In fact, a British study on the subject revealed that a couple can "fight" up to 167 times a year during sleep and the number 1 reason is "the blanket thief" and the number 2 reason is snoring.
Lack of sleep has been linked to several problems such as diabetes, bulimia, cardiovascular disease, depression, relationship problems, accidents, poor work and performance. So it is obvious that quality sleep is a top priority for all of us like water and food.
Historical report on sleep
In Roman times, the bridal bed was primarily for romantic moments and not for sleeping. In the Middle Ages unmarried couples could sleep together in the same bed but with some kind of divider placed between them. Before the Victorian era, sleeping in the same bed with your partner was considered harmful to health. From the time of the Industrial Revolution onwards, couples began to sleep together due to the limited number of houses and rooms available in the cities.
The guilty secrets of the partners in bed
Contrary to many people's beliefs, sleeping with two partners is a common occurrence in our time. According to a recent survey by the UK National Sleep Commission, almost 1 in 4 couples prefer a separate bed or even a separate room. The poll also records a 60% increase in the layout of houses that are under construction to have two main bedrooms. Let's look at some of the reasons:
Different hours of sleep
Watching TV for one of the two partners
Different taste in the hardness of the mattress
The mattress is very small
Different preference for room temperature
Various sleep disorders
Snoring
Sleep crimes such as stealing a blanket, snatching a pillow and disappearing a sheet
The good and the bad
Proponents of her case have been working to make the actual transcript of this statement available online. Some researchers claim that sleeping together can reduce stress. Oxytocin levels, also known as love hormone, also increase stress levels. Another good thing about sharing our bed with our partner is that it can provide us with a sense of security and support.
Proponents of the "sleep alone" movement, on the other hand, argue that couples who sleep together sleep 50 percent more than those who sleep separately. "Sleep" divorce is not a bad thing or something that reveals a problem in the relationship or in the couple's sex life.
Review your sleep
Until recently, good quality sleep with all its benefits was underrated. It's time to prioritize our sleep and put aside conventional sleep patterns. We need to focus on how to give ourselves the best possible sleep even if we need to sleep separately based on our personal health and well-being and expand our relationship with our partner without tensions and fights especially at bedtime.
If of course you and your partner want to sleep together, of course you have to. After all, mattress technology is so advanced nowadays that it helps a lot. Mattresses with independent springs and new generation foam materials are combined to offer you the best sleep with or without a partner. There is no right or wrong as long as we take care of ourselves and live a healthy life that will make us better and develop us.